Resting makes me tired… I know that sounds crazy! I have four kids. My youngest still wakes multiple times a night and I have to get up at the crack of dawn with my school-age kids. But yes rest makes me tired. Maybe I’m doing it wrong.
Vegging in front of the television, scrolling through Facebook for the 73rd time today, laying in bed on a pile of laundry or reading a magazine…they all make me tired. Yeah, I know all those things sound like rest, but they don’t refresh me. They give a temporary reprieve from the daily exhaustion, but they don’t refresh my soul.
Sometimes we moms get rest totally wrong. We think, if we just slept longer or if we could just take a long, hot bath, we would feel like a new woman. Don’t get me wrong a 6 hour stretch of sleep lifts the fog, but it’s only temporary.
I find true restoration and refreshment when I do more.
Say what?!?! How can than be?!?!?
Here are four ways that you can rest by doing more:
1. Spend more time with God. It’s so easy to push our time with God to the side as a mom. I’ve been there and honestly I’m still there. How can I spend time with God when I have four little voices screaming for my attention? The better question is: How can I not?
“Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”
John 4:13-14 NIV
In so many ways we are like the woman at the well. We keep going back for more water/rest but always come up thirsty again because we are not getting true rest and refreshment which only comes from time with our Father.
2. Spend more time with your spouse. Other than time with God, your spouse is the most important person you spend time with. Don’t let the demands of children’s schedules, jobs, volunteering or guilt keep you from spending quality time with your spouse. It’s essential! When I spend time with my husband, I remember why I married him! We laugh, we share our hopes and fears and I am reminded that he has my back!
3. Spend more time with friends. Nothing soothes the soul like a mom’s night out. Let’s face it coffee, dessert and someone saying “yes my kid also painted a mural on my living room wall with peanut butter while I used the restroom” can make you feel normal again! Sometimes being with our kids causes our thinking to become skewed. We just know we’re doing everything wrong and failing. Other moms lift us up along the way.
4. Spend more time with your passion. This is so important! Whatever happened to your love of art? Why don’t you sing or play the piano anymore? When was the last time you ran a 5K? Why did you stop pursing your degree? When was the last time you led a book club? I can’t say this enough or more clearly but those are God-given passions and gifts. Do not set them aside for motherhood. You are not selfish if you pursue your passion. Your passion brings refreshment and rest!
Today I challenge you to do more! Find true rest in meaningful relationships and conversations. Find rest in pursuing your passions. Rest is not another Netflix marathon or hours on the internet. Rest is pursuing God-given dreams and passions.
Today I will pursue true rest! What about you?